And as a follow up to Sandi maternity session… Then there were four! (If you haven’t seen her maternity session, you really want to head over there and read the story of what all went into these amazing babies). Both families are doing great and enjoying lots of baby/toddler snuggles with all the snow days we have had.
Just a little Valentine card from us to you
I usually don’t get all wordy in these things. I adore all the babies and I tend to think all my clients are gorgeous, so I feel like there isn’t much new I can share but this is a bit different. I’ve never made our fertility journey a secret. In fact, you can read all about it here. Infertility changes you, whether you want it or not and it stays with you long after you are done with the whole baby making process. For some it is the inadequate feeling of having failed at fulfilling a very basic role given to them by nature. For others there is added twist of grief after losing a baby or more. And about the only people who can understand are those who went through it too. It has happened that a client has told me that her baby was an infertility baby or even a Shady Grove baby (the clinic that has helped us conceive). And just like that, you go from random strangers to someone who understand what was most likely one of the most forming times in your life.
Moving on, meet Sandi and Andrea. Sandi has been there for hundreds of women while they were going through various fertility treatments, the ups and downs and cried with them when they finally got the best news or through the lowest of lows after a negative cycle or a miscarriage. Most people going through infertility just burrow after they get a negative blood test after their cycle but Sandi insisted on going back out there and being there for others even when she was hurting and heart broken. Everything that could have gone wrong with her body went wrong, sooner or later. There wasn’t anything she hasn’t tried including painful daily injections that left her bruised all over (I would know, I was on the same medication for several cycles and two full pregnancies) in addition to the normal IVF injections, pokes and probes. And yet she kept her faith that there was a baby waiting for her somewhere out there and she gave the faith out to the other ladies time and time again. She even went to baby showers, the purgatory for all ladies who suffer infertility and wore a happy smile and nothing but best wishes for the mom to be, never complaining about seeing the successes and not finding her own, cycle after cycle. Enter Andrea. Andrea had quite a journey with enough of heart break on her own. She happened to be one of the women Sandi has been there for and the friendship between those two grew. When Andrea welcomed her twins she made Sandi the godmother, probably the best choice she could have made since Sandi adores the babies and will always be there for them. Watching Sandi run out of options fast she has made a decision to be there for her friend in a major way; she has offered to be a gestational carrier for her – to carry her child for her. And the first attempt worked. Everyone was over the moon, most of all Sandi. The harder the crush when Andrea lost the baby a few weeks later. A miscarriage is physically and psychologically devastating. The bleeding, the full on labor contractions… it really isn’t a walk through a park. And now is when Andrea gets even more amazing. There she sits in the ER with her husband, completely miserable never wanting to go though anything remotely similar ever again when Sandi and her husband come rushing through the door, completely heart broken and scared for Andrea. And seeing the pain Andrea and her husband realize there is no turning back until this amazing couple gets a baby if they can help it at all. Turns out the third time was the charm.
It was such a pleasure to photograph these two ladies and their families and such an honor to know them both.
Almost caught up on my blog posts, I got to photograph this beautiful mom to be. I can’t wait to find out if I get to take pictures of a beautiful girl or a handsome new boy next!
A few pictures from one of my Christmas babies